We often have a difficult relationship with anger, and it’s common for us to see it as an entirely negative emotion.
Regardless of the way you see anger there is one certainty, which is that you are definitely going to experience it through your life.
When anger becomes destructive it can do so in a number of ways.
- We push it down instead of allowing it and dealing with it, leading to bitterness, resentment and self destruction.
- We lash out disproportionately at those who are closest to us creating more damage and increasing our own frustration and anger.
- We become violent physically, verbally or both putting ourselves and others at risk.
Anger is an emotion which is full of energy if we could only find a way of using it productively.
In addition, there is always another emotion underpinning your anger. You are never angry just because you are angry, and understanding what it REALLY going on to make you feel so frustrated is a key part of changing it. I can help you with that too.
Once you have learned where your anger is coming from (it isn’t, despite your strongest instinct, always because of other people) and you can learn to use it in a way which is more useful and productive it becomes possible to embrace it. Anger is an important signpost, so you don’t need to experience it as a sack of rocks tied to your leg pulling you down through the murky waters of despair.
- Dealing with road rage
- Domestic arguments
- Frustration resulting in physical or emotional damage
- Bottling up negative emotions
- Repressed anger
All of these are terrible for your emotional wellbeing and they compromise your physical health.
If anything you've read on this page resonates I can help you understand where your anger is coming from, why you use it in the way that you do, and how you can make positives changes to free you and those that you love from an unnecessary burden.