August 25, 2024
Are you someone who feels more valuable when you’re getting things done, achieving your objectives, or ticking items off on your to-do list? When I find myself falling into this trap I think about a story someone once told about the way we develop the erroneous belief that our value is connected to what we […]
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July 14, 2024
I’m having a video call with my daughter and trying to get the dogs into the car following our walk. Precariously holding the phone between my chin and shoulder I’m trying to make sure I have both the leads and my rucksack. My daughter is walking to the supermarket to buy milk. She’s been struggling […]
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July 13, 2024
Some other therapists and I are in the middle of a ‘check-in’ and reflecting on our feelings before the meeting begins. There is a short silence, so I decide to take my turn. ‘I’ve had a good week but I’m feeling tired this morning because I was lying awake for too long last night trying […]
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June 2, 2024
Anticipating a heatwave and inspired by my daughter’s purchase of one recently, I decide to buy a fan instead of finishing the assignment due next week. It’s a simple enough job, I tell myself, and proceed to spend the best part of a morning looking at different styles and models whilst trying to create a […]
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May 29, 2024
In group supervision, a colleague is telling us about a client stuck in a negative loop of self-defeating behaviours despite constantly expressing a desire to change and make his life better. Instead of focusing attention on doing things that he rationally and logically knows will make him feel better, he slumps onto the sofa each […]
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