Watching “Gardeners World” on the TV there’s an interview with a “snowdrop expert”, which makes me immediately question all of my life choices. Finding motivation and sustenance in something so niche is incredibly inspiring and a reminder, if one were needed, that there is almost infinite … [Read more...] about How To Make Changes That Stick (if you really want to)
Gratitude
Christmas Lights and the Paradox of Choice
Henry Ford telling his employees that a customer can have any colour of Model T Ford "as long as it's black" is a well-known anecdote even though it's unlikely he ever said it. Regardless of whether or not he did, the sentiment is one we ignore at our cost. We’ve been lulled into the belief that … [Read more...] about Christmas Lights and the Paradox of Choice
Lessons I Learned From Taking Care Of Wonky Pets
My inadvertent love affair with wonky pets began with my first dog, Toby, a collie cross rescue who was only six months old but already had a pin in his leg, as a result of being hit by a car. I'd just moved into my first house and I wanted a dog. Nothing fancy, just one who would chase after a … [Read more...] about Lessons I Learned From Taking Care Of Wonky Pets
Sober Relationships
The Sunday I watched my father zipped into a body bag and removed from the living room didn't seem an obvious point at which there would be a change in the relationship I'd witnessed him have with my mother. That morning, he would have been listening to Brahms or Beethoven, maybe Grieg and … [Read more...] about Sober Relationships
Secure Attachment
I wrote this piece some years ago but never posted it. I'm not sure why. I came across it this week when I was looking for a systemic family therapist and realised how hard it is to find good therapists with availability. I'm about to do some further training and need to be in therapy as part … [Read more...] about Secure Attachment