The relentless press of time brings around another birthday and finds me having breakfast with my family. Fresh fruit, coffee and pastries adorn the table while my daughter shows me the cake. "You don't have to eat a piece for breakfast but I can't stand the suspense of hiding it from you all … [Read more...] about How To Feel Loved
Gratitude
Why Comparison Is Largely Unhelpful
One day, my therapist asked, "Where does your self-esteem come from?" I looked out through the window into his lush green garden and at the woodlands beyond, wishing myself in amongst the trees. I didn't know where my self-esteem came from, I just knew that I wasn't generating much of it … [Read more...] about Why Comparison Is Largely Unhelpful
An Alternative To Burnout
I had a question from a client this week variations of which I receive regularly. "I feel I've hit burnout and I don't know what to do about it." I opened with something like, "I spent a while wondering how to answer you and thought about it while I walked my dogs and looked at the trees … [Read more...] about An Alternative To Burnout
Why Every Therapist Needs A Therapist
My therapist reaches into an old A4 envelope for my notes down at the side of his chair wedged between whichever book he's reading and a travel mug I have never seen him sip from. These beginnings always take an age, a ritual of sorts. While he shuffles pages into order I look out of the … [Read more...] about Why Every Therapist Needs A Therapist
Why Screen Time Hurts You More Than Your Kids
I wrote this post a few years ago but it seemed a good time to publish it as I’m helping my son and his girlfriend move into their first house this weekend which means I don’t have the time I usually have to write, and I’m thinking a lot about what a joyful life it’s been watching my kids grow up … [Read more...] about Why Screen Time Hurts You More Than Your Kids