Ghosts. Yesterday, buying a coffee, I had to fight my way through an ever extending array of plastic Halloween decorations, a commercial and tenuous connection to the ancient Celtic belief that this time of year marks a blurring of the lines between the living and the dead. As the leaves turn and … [Read more...] about Why Your Parents Aren't To Blame
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How To Have An Argument
In March 2007 The Swiss army marched into Liechtenstein apparently accidentally which, if it weren’t Switzerland a country notable for its lack of aggression, might have caused a dramatic diplomatic incident. As it turned out the Liechtenstein response remarkable, they didn’t notice. In fact the … [Read more...] about How To Have An Argument
What To Do When Your Relationship Is Falling Apart
Sometimes people come into my room with a story which seems to have an inevitable end to everyone except the person telling it. When your relationship is falling apart it’s easy to be blind to positive action, engulfed instead by the impending catastrophe. Even when a relationship reaches crisis … [Read more...] about What To Do When Your Relationship Is Falling Apart
Why It's Good To Be Vulnerable
I used to have a client who wouldn’t let me use the word “vulnerable”. I understood why she was so opposed. Growing up in an extremely abusive environment she had learned that it was neither safe nor constructive to be vulnerable. Children are incredibly resourceful at finding ways to survive. On … [Read more...] about Why It's Good To Be Vulnerable
How To Survive A Break Up
Jack and Mary split up. Surviving a break up is rarely easy, but there are ways to make it so much harder. Mary moved her belongings out into a small place and Jack moved too, into a period of stagnant and painful denial. An emotional place where things don’t happen the way they are happening, … [Read more...] about How To Survive A Break Up