My relationship with Kate Walsh, a singer songwriter from Brighton, wasn’t real, except to me. She seemed to write songs which consistently resonated deeply, perhaps because of all that was going on in my life at that time, like a coincidental unexpected alignment of the stars. Whatever it was her … [Read more...] about Why The Length Of A Relationship Is Irrelevant
Relationships
Why We "Ghost"
During the 1980’s my friend Martin developed an interesting habit of simply disappearing at some point during an evening out without saying a word to anyone. One minute he’d be there and the next he’d be gone. It became an expected punctuation in the evening. “Where’s Martin?” “He must have gone”, … [Read more...] about Why We "Ghost"
Why Being Alone Isn’t Loneliness
Having a coffee with Martin last week he used a phrase which struck a deep chord with me. When referring to the process of change that we find ourselves going through he described it as “turning the earth”. Beautiful. We probably underestimate the extent to which we change. Even in imperceptible … [Read more...] about Why Being Alone Isn’t Loneliness
Why Blame Hurts
This week I bought some plums which, I accept, is unremarkable. I like plums a lot and these were a source of particular delight because they were also reduced in price presumably only a day from their use by date and destined for fruity oblivion. To say that they were a disappointment would be a … [Read more...] about Why Blame Hurts