As a kid, the youngest of three, my two siblings had an unfair head start at going off the rails which meant that someone (me) was left trying to be the “good” and “sensible” one. Being OK turned out to be much more of a burden than I had imagined. I can remember my mother always telling me how … [Read more...] about Why Being OK Is Sometimes A Burden
Self Acceptance
Why You Might Be The Reason You Feel Lonely
I had an argument in the street with my neighbour. He was shouting at me from his car window without, to my mind, a shred of justification. Once it would have been embarrassing but now it was simply annoying. It stayed with me afterwards, the injustice of it. The disrespect. It irritates me when … [Read more...] about Why You Might Be The Reason You Feel Lonely
How To Make Life Easier
When the children were small they liked to paint, and the simplest way to minimise the mess was to buy a large roll of paper and cover the entire dining table with it. Wherever paint was daubed it didn’t matter. They could dip and brush with gusto creating enormous brightly coloured murals until … [Read more...] about How To Make Life Easier
Why We Fall In Love With The Wrong People
Trying to find a notebook with some space in it I come across a scribbled line which looks like a quote but, the more I stare at it, the more it feels like my own original thought, borne from experience. “The qualities which create love, stifle desire.” As successful romantic relationships … [Read more...] about Why We Fall In Love With The Wrong People
How To Control Your Life
Back at school one of my daughter’s friends arrives with a striking new appearance. Teacher- ”Liv your hair is silver!” Liv - ”I know, I dyed it myself." The nonchalance made me laugh out loud. Pulled up for a flagrant flouting of the school rules, in that momentary exchange between pupil and … [Read more...] about How To Control Your Life