This week me and my friend Adam went to see Dean Friedman at a local pizza restaurant. Having pretty much turned it into an annual pilgrimage I mused on what it is that draws me so strongly to these songs. The tunes are great, his lyrics clever and witty, but there’s something else too. If I close my eyes I can be transported back to the 1970’s when I first heard “Company” sitting in my sisters house in the back room where I used to play Ludo with my great uncle years before. So much is preserved perfectly in our minds and it’s generally art of some sort which triggers it.
Occasionally I see disgruntled or mocking comments on social media aimed at people who take pictures of their food. It always strikes me as no different from questioning why someone would gain pleasure from looking at a painting. It’s shallow and ignorant, and misunderstands the role art plays in our lives. As a cook and a baker I know all too well the pain of seeing something I have worked for hours to create finished off in a matter of minutes at the dinner or breakfast table. There is joy in seeing the pleasure of people eating my food, laced with a sense of sadness that I can’t admire it any longer. So, I take pictures of it. When I look back at a seemingly pointless snap of yet another loaf I am, once again, transported back to that time, to that warm summer day with the doors open onto the garden, remembering who was there and, what was said and, most of all, how I felt.
Art in one form or another is a line which traces through our entire lives. Books, paintings, photos, food, music, whatever your particular ‘squeeze’ it will willingly accompany you through and mark every single significant moment of your life, and it can emphasise and elongate the most precious of those times, while tempering the pain of those which were most trying.
Perhaps it’s easiest of all to attach art to a feeling of happiness. I will never forget the first time I saw the Chagall windows at Tudeley. The sun poured through the blue glass and in that moment, the church truly felt like a place of divinity. I have been back since, many times, but nothing will match that first experience. It is as if I am anchored in that moment because the joy is at its most powerful right there. Art does that to us, it seeps down into the soul, ignited by the briefest thought, returning us to a deep deep joy.
Art accompanies all the most beautiful moments of my life. The beginning of relationships, the birth of my children, the happiest of my younger years. It is art which pushes through at the end of the dark period as if to punctuate, to establish a full stop at the end of a painful sentence. On one Saturday some years ago I drove from the Scottish Highlands down through England to my home in the south. I was aware of the lifting of a weighty gloom which seemed to have hung for an eternity. As I drove across the Forth Road Bridge, listening to “Blaze Of Glory” by Boo Hewerdine, the whole of that junction in my life was marked by that song. Art has a power we can use, and is not a thin and fluff of nothing. Art has a power which interplays with our own emotion, to and fro, back and forth, gaining strength from us and instilling it too.
I have noticed too that sadness has its hardest edges smoothed a little by art. My father died, quite unexpectedly, on a Sunday. I got the call from my mother as I sat at my desk listening to “At The Beginning Of Time”. I had been due to see Jane Siberry in London that very evening but everything had suddenly changed, and I had been drawn into the very darkness that she sang about. In later years the song felt important not only because of the memories it conjured, but because it prompted me to consider pain by standing back from it rather than surrendering to the compelling invitation to fall into it. Art is good at offering wider and deeper perspective.
Waiting for Dean Friedman to resume his set Adam and I are having a conversation about tour t-shirts we bought in the 1980’s. I fondly remembered his red “Gillan” shirt, and he suggested that my “Pat Benetar” effort from the “Get Nervous” tour would be quite cool these days. Unfortunately most of them are gone now, but the memories aren’t. I went to almost all of those gigs with Adam and it is the art which both defines and emphasises a friendship which has lasted for almost all of my life. That’s what art does.
This morning I’m making Cornetti. They are an Italian cross between a croissant and a brioche. My grandfather was Italian, my dad would have loved eating them, and they remind me of beautiful holidays in Italy with my family. I will be taking pictures.
Debbie Smith says
Thank you for this Graham. I too was transported back to you, Clare and I listening to “Well well said the Rocking Chair” and “What are you crazy, how the hell can you say what you just said”
Richard and I went to a Dean Friedman gig at the RCM Manchester last year. One of those bittersweet nostalgic things that we have to take at face value. Simply be grateful for. Sometimes no words can quite express the importance of our own personal song history. If we are very blessed we have another to share it with.
Oddly all of my children became artistic. Each creative,with passionate social consciences.
Music is now my biggest agony.
I cannot listen. I am broken. My future playlist is silent. She loved to sing.
Here is what one of her friends wrote
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Graham Landi says
I remember those days too Debbie, very fondly. Music evokes so much emotion in us, I can understand why it is so painful for you at the moment. I hope that in time it will again provide you with comfort and hope.
Debbie Smith says
Currently listening to Harvey Andrews, Writer of Songs. The original old vinyl…. Tamar and I used to do this thing, sort of traditional, where she would play something that meant a lot to her and I would play a song that was important to me.
I discovered Panic at the Disco (please leave all overcoats canes and top hats with the doorman) and the awesome Dresden Dolls ( coin operated boy) Regina Spector (fidelity). I introduced her to Floyd, Jonie Mitchell, Supertramp and Alan Parson’s Project.
One week, she was really excited to play me her song and it was Bohemian rhapsody, yea eventually we sort of overlapped. I love how young people are so open minded about music..
I became a huge admirer of Beth Hart. I listened to the only 2 tracks I knew on early mp3 repeatedly.Leave the light on and LA song. Randomly last year, Tamar got me and her tickets to see Beth Hart in Liverpool.
After Tamar died I was looking at her phone.To a friend she said ” I am going to see Beth Hart with my mum tonight”
“Who’s Beth Hart?”
” Oh some depressed American woman my mum likes”
Later that evening, ” wow having massive girl crush, such a powerful voice” We had tickets to see her this year in Manchester.