I'm telling a client that trying to breathe deeply while he's having a panic attack is a bad idea because one of panicking's best features is the ability to convince you that you cannot breathe. I tell him, "Just try reminding yourself that even though you're sure you're about to have a heart … [Read more...] about Everything You Believe Is Probably Wrong
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RBG And The Garage Clearance
We're in the garage preparing for a long-overdue run to the tip. Logs are piled in scant preparation for a hard winter that may well be more severe than we care to think about. My son hauls a filthy sports bag down from a shelf next to boxes of an album I made a decade ago and for which I … [Read more...] about RBG And The Garage Clearance
Chocolate Puddings And A Scarcity Mindset
Sitting at the dining table with empty plates in front of us I can feel the dog lying on my feet out of sight, hopeful. A familiar discussion strikes up. "How many chocolate puddings are left?" my son asks his girlfriend. "I think there are two. How many have you had?" "I had one yesterday. … [Read more...] about Chocolate Puddings And A Scarcity Mindset
Making Tiny Imperceptible Changes
The sticky overwhelming night bears down on me making sleep all but impossible. The dog shifts from place to place, the floor, the bed, downstairs, the bed, the floor, always picking her way around the cool mat, the one place she might find some peace. I consider curling up on it myself. A … [Read more...] about Making Tiny Imperceptible Changes
Dealing With The Trauma Of A Trauma
Last weekend my son sustained head trauma. Someone punched him so hard it broke his mastoid and, as he fell he hit and cut his head. For two days there was blood coming from his ear, he couldn't keep a glass of water down, and he was so dizzy he couldn't get himself off the bed until he was so … [Read more...] about Dealing With The Trauma Of A Trauma