My daughter, returning to university in a few weeks, is trying to choose a new duvet and makes the mistake of asking for my advice. Our neurodivergence makes decisions more difficult and creates anxiety around change, so deciding on new bedding might appear straightforward but instead, we tie one … [Read more...] about How To Make Decisions
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Depression And Disconnection
Someone said to me recently, "I think I'm suffering from some sort of weird depression." I was intrigued by the use of the word "weird" because, when they described how they were feeling it just sounded like depression, nothing weird about it. When you look up the definition of depression … [Read more...] about Depression And Disconnection
Why Comparison Is Largely Unhelpful
One day, my therapist asked, "Where does your self-esteem come from?" I looked out through the window into his lush green garden and at the woodlands beyond, wishing myself in amongst the trees. I didn't know where my self-esteem came from, I just knew that I wasn't generating much of it … [Read more...] about Why Comparison Is Largely Unhelpful
Word Games & Boundaries
I'm playing "Bananagrams" with my daughter and, in what now feels like a rash move fuelled by early game bravado I have "dumped" too many of my opening letters and find myself with a swathe of tiles in front of me and unable to make anything of them. Serenely fashioning "Paradoxical" on the … [Read more...] about Word Games & Boundaries
An Alternative To Burnout
I had a question from a client this week variations of which I receive regularly. "I feel I've hit burnout and I don't know what to do about it." I opened with something like, "I spent a while wondering how to answer you and thought about it while I walked my dogs and looked at the trees … [Read more...] about An Alternative To Burnout