I used to have a client who wouldn’t let me use the word “vulnerable”. I understood why she was so opposed. Growing up in an extremely abusive environment she had learned that it was neither safe nor constructive to be vulnerable. Children are incredibly resourceful at finding ways to survive. On … [Read more...] about Why It's Good To Be Vulnerable
Happiness
Why Meaning Is More Important Than Happiness
In his heartbreaking but utterly captivating book “Mans Search For Meaning” Viktor Frankl describes his experiences in a Nazi concentration camp and concludes that what motivates and sustains us, in even the most desperate and painful experiences, is our ability to maintain our own “freedom” to … [Read more...] about Why Meaning Is More Important Than Happiness
Why Experiences Are Valuable
I drove my son to the water sports centre this evening and as we approached we could see there were a large group of visiting Orthodox Jews over from Israel enjoying a couple of hours of kayaking, rowing and messing about in the giant swan pedalos. They have visited before and quite honestly it’s … [Read more...] about Why Experiences Are Valuable
Why Blame Hurts
This week I bought some plums which, I accept, is unremarkable. I like plums a lot and these were a source of particular delight because they were also reduced in price presumably only a day from their use by date and destined for fruity oblivion. To say that they were a disappointment would be a … [Read more...] about Why Blame Hurts
What I Learned From Shooting Hoops
In Tunbridge Wells last weekend I am shopping for beds. After an hour or so walking around looking at a variety of largely over priced monstrosities I decide it’s time for lunch and beat a path to the park via Carluccios having first scored for myself a Chicken Milanese sandwich (highly … [Read more...] about What I Learned From Shooting Hoops