When I was much younger I had a relationship with a married woman that was destructive for both of us. For her, it was a reckless response to an unhappy marriage. For me, it was a hopeless attempt at finding something I wasn't ready for. Whenever she could get away, she would come to my … [Read more...] about Why Time Is All That We Have
Productivity
How To Remember Your Value
When my daughter started at University I can remember having a conversation with her about how I thought it would suit her because she enjoys working on her own and seems to have no trouble in motivating herself to get her work done. She is less good at proactively emptying the … [Read more...] about How To Remember Your Value
Why Making A Mess Of Things Is A Sign Of Progress
My daughter has been having relationship problems recently culminating in a painful breakup which isn’t quite a breakup. “I think he’s afraid of getting hurt somewhere down the line, so he’s trying to minimise it by breaking up now” she says. I’ve heard many similar excuses for bewildering … [Read more...] about Why Making A Mess Of Things Is A Sign Of Progress
How To Deal With Pain
My daughter is sharing with me her reading list for university and bemoaning the cost of the textbooks in the way that one would if one were actually having to pay for them. I tell her about how I remember my own study books being astronomically expensive but how I really loved buying them all … [Read more...] about How To Deal With Pain
How To Be Distracted
I need to write a presentation but I am finding it hard to craft the beginning. To avoid the discomfort of sitting and staring at an empty screen I go and make coffee but, as the minute's tick by, I start to feel bad about myself, about not using my time efficiently. To avoid the growing feeling … [Read more...] about How To Be Distracted