I was a fat kid at school and nobody thinks much about bullying fat kids. If there is a benefit to being bullied it is that early on we learn a lot about real friendship, and that people who appear to be your friends may not be there anymore when there is nothing tangible left that they want. My … [Read more...] about Why Bullying Is So Destructive
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How We Make Anxiety
“Writing is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way”. This quote from the celebrated American writer E.L.Doctorow conveys a universal truth about life, that we have no idea what is coming next but that it needn’t deplete … [Read more...] about How We Make Anxiety
Why We Are All Addicts
Gambling addiction is rife and growing. If you want to lose money you can do so twenty four hours a day from the comfort of your own home in all manner of ways. The promise of glory coupled with an all but certain guarantee of financial ruin, emotional destruction, bitter disappointment and self … [Read more...] about Why We Are All Addicts
Why Being Alone Isn’t Loneliness
Having a coffee with Martin last week he used a phrase which struck a deep chord with me. When referring to the process of change that we find ourselves going through he described it as “turning the earth”. Beautiful. We probably underestimate the extent to which we change. Even in imperceptible … [Read more...] about Why Being Alone Isn’t Loneliness