In therapy, I am looking out of the window at the gravestones. I didn't deliberately choose a therapist whose office was in a cemetery but now that I think about it, there is something peaceful and fitting about talking of the past surrounded by the dead. Our conversation is about the need to … [Read more...] about Recovery Might Not Be What You Think It Is
Self Acceptance
Is Agreeableness Overrated?
A number of things have converged this week causing me to think about how we connect to others and, more specifically, the role that agreeableness plays in doing so. The first was a message from my daughter telling me that she'd split up with her boyfriend. They've been trying to address their … [Read more...] about Is Agreeableness Overrated?
Secure Attachment
I wrote this piece some years ago but never posted it. I'm not sure why. I came across it this week when I was looking for a systemic family therapist and realised how hard it is to find good therapists with availability. I'm about to do some further training and need to be in therapy as part … [Read more...] about Secure Attachment
A Moving Experience
I've spent much of the past week lying in a hammock reading books being gently caressed by a soft breeze floating in from the river Alde, while thinking about vulnerability and regret. Holidays are, for most of you, I know, a source of great excitement and pleasure, but I don't really feel that … [Read more...] about A Moving Experience
How To Make Decisions
My daughter, returning to university in a few weeks, is trying to choose a new duvet and makes the mistake of asking for my advice. Our neurodivergence makes decisions more difficult and creates anxiety around change, so deciding on new bedding might appear straightforward but instead, we tie one … [Read more...] about How To Make Decisions