In the mid-eighties, I went on holiday to Corfu with my friend Adam. It was the first time I had flown and the first time I felt consciously out of control. Late one Friday the 13th as the plane sped down the runway towards take-off I thought to myself, "My body has never travelled at this … [Read more...] about I Am Not The Doer
Self Acceptance
Trying To Finish
When I did the Belbin psychometric test to find out which team role I play most effectively, I remember less about my results and more of a jealous feeling related to people who were “Completer Finishers”. Everything tidy and settled is beyond me and consequently annoying. I think I was a … [Read more...] about Trying To Finish
Self-Promotion For The Awkward
You know that old physics question, "If a tree falls in a lonely forest and there is no animal near to hear it, does it make a sound?" It occurs to me that hot on the heels of this well-known philosophical conundrum is perhaps another, less familiar, which asks, "Are therapists bad at … [Read more...] about Self-Promotion For The Awkward
The Metaphorical Garden
I find myself walking across sun-drenched fields alone with the dogs and overcome with feelings of freedom and elation I can't recall experiencing too often. Through the vineyards, with green in every direction, I wonder when exactly I awoke to the joy of being outside. My mother was a … [Read more...] about The Metaphorical Garden
How A Knife Reminded Me Of Self-Abandonment
In the kitchen drawer, there is a knife that I kept from my mother's house after she died in 2007. I don't know why I ended up with this particular piece but whenever I look at it I am reminded of the meals from childhood. Sitting around the cluttered kitchen table that doubled as a desk for … [Read more...] about How A Knife Reminded Me Of Self-Abandonment