During a breakthrough with a technically minded client involving mapping the debilitating steps of OCD into a flow chart to mimic a domestic hot water system, he appeared increasingly enthusiastic. These moments, when someone who might have struggled for so long, arrives at a point of clarity, … [Read more...] about Teach the children
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How To Make Yourself Anxious (and then stop doing it)
I'm having a video call with my daughter and trying to get the dogs into the car following our walk. Precariously holding the phone between my chin and shoulder I'm trying to make sure I have both the leads and my rucksack. My daughter is walking to the supermarket to buy milk. She's been … [Read more...] about How To Make Yourself Anxious (and then stop doing it)
How To Remain Stuck
In group supervision, a colleague is telling us about a client stuck in a negative loop of self-defeating behaviours despite constantly expressing a desire to change and make his life better. Instead of focusing attention on doing things that he rationally and logically knows will make him feel … [Read more...] about How To Remain Stuck
Why You Shouldn’t Listen To Your Parents
This is a reprise of a piece I wrote back in 2017. The lady who lives a few doors down is hurrying out to her car with one of her young children in tow. He, failing to pick up on the apparent need for urgency, has found a stick and is tapping it against the bin, entranced by its peculiarly … [Read more...] about Why You Shouldn’t Listen To Your Parents
How To Make Changes That Stick (if you really want to)
Watching “Gardeners World” on the TV there’s an interview with a “snowdrop expert”, which makes me immediately question all of my life choices. Finding motivation and sustenance in something so niche is incredibly inspiring and a reminder, if one were needed, that there is almost infinite … [Read more...] about How To Make Changes That Stick (if you really want to)