Two disparate events moved me to write this week about the drawbacks of stoicism. First, I completed a round-trip of some 15 hours duration to have Daisy's (my dog) lameness properly diagnosed by a specialist vet who, rather inconveniently, lives in another country. It turns out that she's been … [Read more...] about Why Agency Beats Stoicism When It Comes To Recovery
Recovery
Recovery Might Not Be What You Think It Is
In therapy, I am looking out of the window at the gravestones. I didn't deliberately choose a therapist whose office was in a cemetery but now that I think about it, there is something peaceful and fitting about talking of the past surrounded by the dead. Our conversation is about the need to … [Read more...] about Recovery Might Not Be What You Think It Is
Is Agreeableness Overrated?
A number of things have converged this week causing me to think about how we connect to others and, more specifically, the role that agreeableness plays in doing so. The first was a message from my daughter telling me that she'd split up with her boyfriend. They've been trying to address their … [Read more...] about Is Agreeableness Overrated?
Trusting The Process
On the train, we sit separately because so many people are travelling. From where I am I can look up the carriage towards Martin facing me. He holds up his phone and takes a picture of my withering expression. In these moments I think about how different it could have been had he not stopped … [Read more...] about Trusting The Process
Depression And Disconnection
Someone said to me recently, "I think I'm suffering from some sort of weird depression." I was intrigued by the use of the word "weird" because, when they described how they were feeling it just sounded like depression, nothing weird about it. When you look up the definition of depression … [Read more...] about Depression And Disconnection