Walking to get coffee this morning it’s as cold as I can remember. As I move past people with scarves wrapped tightly around their faces and others scraping ice from windscreens I eventually reach the yellow glow of the cafe and feel the rush of warm air as I heave open the door. Waiting at the … [Read more...] about Why Generalisation Keeps You Unhappy
Recovery
Some Thoughts On Anxiety
A Facebook friend asked for my thoughts on an article he had read on the subject of anxiety. First, let me tell you a couple of things I have learned from working with people who suffer from anxiety. First, nobody believes much in their own recovery. Anxiety isn’t seen as a jacket we put on … [Read more...] about Some Thoughts On Anxiety
Are You Too Busy To Get Better?
I’ve had better Mondays. After a disappointment came a cancellation, then another one. Sometimes people are just too busy to get better. Rolling around a conversation from my own therapy that morning (it’s part of ethical practice to make sure we therapists sort out our own heads to avoid any … [Read more...] about Are You Too Busy To Get Better?
What To Do When You're Sad And Angry
In the poem “For A Far Out Friend” writer Gary Snyder references "Devas", beings of greater power and bliss than can be found in humanity. We seem to find it hard to achieve much bliss at times, in the tumult of everyday existence, and even a moderate level of happiness and contentment can be … [Read more...] about What To Do When You're Sad And Angry
Why Your Parents Aren't To Blame
Ghosts. Yesterday, buying a coffee, I had to fight my way through an ever extending array of plastic Halloween decorations, a commercial and tenuous connection to the ancient Celtic belief that this time of year marks a blurring of the lines between the living and the dead. As the leaves turn and … [Read more...] about Why Your Parents Aren't To Blame